One listener asked a bunch of questions in the private Facebook group and I decided to answer them right here and many more.   Dating has become more convenient but it seems never more confusing.  We cut through all the craziness and give you the raw truth, unedited and real. 

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Analogy #1: The Ducks and the Swans

Do you ever go to the park and see two ducks thrashing around, flailing their wings, making loud noises and disturbing the peace of the rest of the pond community? This is like you and your Gumball guy fighting, although you may mistake it for passion.

Now picture the white swan on the other side of the pond, calmly gliding through the water, unbothered. She might look over at the dramatic ducks and think, “What the heck? How do they live like that?”. When this lady-swan sees another handsome man-swan who is calmly gliding through the water as well, they will recognize each other as peaceful beings that can come together and make that cute little heart shape with their necks, ya know what I’m saying?

The Purpose of the Back to YOU Academy

The work we do in the Back To YOU Academy is to make the path smoother and clearer to get you to majestic swan status.

The thing is, this is a process. And you might feel overwhelmed just...

He's bad for you, you know what the right thing is to do, but for some reason you feel stuck.  You can't think during the day, you listen to love songs and keep wondering why it can't be with him.  

This a podcast you can listen to on repeat.  I have been here many times and I know exactly what it takes to help you change the dialogue in your head.  

It will help you gain strength in the darkest moment and clarity where you didn't think you could get it. 

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After losing 40 LBS and fresh Spring Weather in NYC, I was ready to start online dating again.   I tried Match.com, Elite Singles and Inner Circle.    The experience was shocking to say the least as even in New York City with so many options, the filtering process was much more than I expected.  

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What flavor of attention does he crave?   Once you can pinpoint this you will be able to decode all of his behavior effortlessly.   

In this episode we talk not only about romantic relationships but how others in our lives manipulate us with their cravings for attention and how we can recognize this and not mistake them for trying to make a connection.

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Simi Fromen is a mom, inspirational writer & author, yoga teacher, health coach and self-love advocate devoted to helping you empower yourself in remembering your light.

She knows what it’s like to lose yourself in health and in self-worth, searching for a way back to to your true nature, the heart. She has invested in nutrition school, yoga trainings, yoga for anxiety and depression, spiritual development, and mindset trainings. She's a certified health coach through the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. She embeds all of these teachings and her life lessons into a w(holistic) approach to wellness, creating more space in your mind, body, and heart.

She has suffered from depression, body image, self-love and owning her worth. She waited until she was ready. And then she realized she would never feel ready. It wasn’t until she got out of her way and began to shift her mindset, have faith and believe in her worth, did she start to own her power again.

She...

This episode gets raw and real about why and when to block your ex.  We go through it all from texting threads, pictures and stalking his social media.  Get ready. 

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After dropping 30 lbs, losing my dog Maggie, Rebranding Gumball Love, Ballroom dancing, performing on Broadway, changing my full-time job and the launch of my first two 8- week academies…it’s time to start this Podcast again!  I am so excited to share all the updates, learning experiences and the growth I have experienced in this time. 

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"I met a new guy, and I'm scared."

You've met a new guy. He's nice, mature, handsome...all the things, and you're scared. You're scared he won't like you, or that he will end up being another Gumball Guy.

There's probably a toxic relationship not too far away in your rearview mirror, and you're coming up on an exit to a New Relationship. Are you going to get off the exit and start fresh, or are you going to keep driving with the pain from the past following you and controlling you? 

Maybe it's time to take a pit stop and ask yourself, am I really into this guy? Why am I so worried if he likes me? What qualities are we both bringing to the table? What's the real reason behind why I feel scared and how can I stop?

First things first, do you know your own worth?

It's going to be hard, but I want you to not assume the worst of this new guy. There's a difference in projecting your past negative experiences on him and being appropriately observant of his...

Are you over your ex?  

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