How to Stand Out on Your Dating Profile
Not attracting the quality men you're looking for on the dating sites? In this episode, I give you my proven top tips for improving your online dating profile and the first couple interactions to collapse your timeline and find your high-quality man faster.
We talk about:
- How to make sure your profile isn't generic and stands out from the crowd while staying true to who you are
- Red flags to look out for in the initial text messages with a guy so you can filter through the duds faster and save loads of time
- How soon you should move away from texting and move to phone/video call or in-person meet up
- How to grow your self-worth so you no longer settle for Gumball Guys
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Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:
- The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package,...
Why Professional Women Struggle to Find Love
Are you killing it at your professional live, but struggling to find the man of your dreams? Most clients who come to me are much more confident and comfortable walking in to a board room than walking in to a first date, so if that's you, you're not alone!
In this episode, I give you the top reasons my clients were struggling to connect with high-quality men, and how I help them stop the cycle of toxic love, discover their worth, and find true love.
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If you're done dating man babies and ready to find a lasting, true connection, I can help you! Here's how:
- The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, 10 coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
- The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
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I'm Engaged! What it Feels like to Know for Sure
I'M ENGAGED!! I know how it can kinda stink to hear these engagement stories when you're still single, trust me I was there for a long time. I'm sharing this story with you because I KNOW it's possible for you.
Whether you're single, dating or in a committed relationship, this episode is meant to help you understand what it feels like (for me, and I know for many others) to know for sure that this is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. I'll also give you the behind the scenes story of how Iain proposed!
Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're the type of girl who's got it all together, except for in the area of romance, you're probably my ideal client! There are currently two ways to work with me:
- The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one...
Why are We Attracted to People Who Aren't Good for Us?
We're bringing back my love Iain Roberts for another episode to give his perspective on Gumball Love, and how so many of us became attracted to Gumball People.
When we think about our childhoods and the books we read, the movies we watched, the characters we idolized...a lot of these fantasies weren't very healthy expectations. These expectations are what keeps us in an endless cycle, but we're so IN it that we can't always objectively see the behavior patterns.
That's what the Gumball Love Assessment and "Level Up for Love" coaching package is for! We talk all about the assessment and coaching package in this episode as well and exactly what to expect and how it can help you.
Those who sign up for the Level Up for Love 4-session coaching package get exclusive access to the assessment right now!
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Live Guest Coaching: There Was So Much Chemistry, What Happened?
On this episode we bring on Khyara, a listener of the podcast, for a LIVE hot seat coaching session
Khyara was dating a guy for a month and a half and things were going well, there was a lot of sexual chemistry, until things started feeling..off.
At a time when Khyara really emotionally needed him, he dropped the ball. Plus, he stopped prioritizing time for them to hang out.
Tune in as Melissa and Khyara break down what happened using Khyara’s quiz results to see which flavors of attention this guy craved.
If you’ve been wondering what a coaching session is like, here’s your chance to get a taste!
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When Should You Have Sex with Him?
You're having a fun night on a date, or maybe a night out, and it's come to that moment when you're wondering whether you should go back to his place or have him come back to yours for sex or not.
While I can't make this decision for you and would never try to, I do want to give you a few questions to ask yourself before making the decision and to really think about.
We'll also talk about the real reason why guys ghost after sex-- it's often not having anything to do with you, and everything to do with them.
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What Men Want: Why Most Dating Advice is Crap
Enter the search term "dating advice" on Google or Youtube and you're bound to come across listicles or videos with titles like "10 Things You're Doing that are Turning Men Off" or "The Number One Mistake Women Make in Dating".
From this day forward, I want you to STOP consuming content like this. It's crap!!
1. You're never gonna find the holy grail of "what men want" because all men are DIFFERENT just like all women are different
2. This type of advice does not teach you how to have a deep, intimate relationship..it teaches you how to catch the attention of shallow men
3. The pick up artists who sell this advice never speak from personal experience and are almost never in successful, healthy relationships themselves.
Forget it all!! In this episode, I break down how to discern the crap advice from the credible advice that actually helps you find true, committed love.
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Does He Have the Capacity to Love?
When we've dated Gumball Guys in the past, often it's daunting and scary to get back into dating because we've been burned before. We're a bit jaded and skeptical that all guys are jerks.
Well, hindsight is always 20/20, but we can try some things during the dating stage to test the waters and see if he's really ready for love and commitment.
Junk "dating advice" will give you a lot of short-term strategies for getting a Gumball Guy. Well, ya got him..and now you wish you never met him. This episode is about LONG-TERM..how to actually find the right guy for you, who will be someone you can lean on in tough times, a teammate to take on life together.
Tune in to this episode to find out what type of inner work you should be doing to see if you are ready for love, as well as what you should be looking out for in a guy to see if he has the capacity to love as well.
Resources Mentioned
How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera
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What Does it Really Mean to be "Ready for Love"?
How do you know if you are "ready for love"? The depiction of love and romance in Hollywood movies certainly sets the wrong expectations for us around what healthy love, dating and relationships look like. After many years of dating and relationships, learning from the mistakes, and finally meeting the love of my life at age 43, I share how I knew I was ready for love.
Below are some key questions to ask yourself:
- What's the intention behind you dating right now? Is it out of boredom or loneliness? Or pressure from friends and family?
- Are you happy and fulfilled in your life right now?
- Are you who you truly want to be? Are you embodying the best version of yourself?
- What exactly are you looking for in a partner? What do you want and need?
Resources Mentioned
How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera
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How to Break Free from Toxic Thought Patterns
You may have heard someone say at some point in your life, "thoughts are things."
This saying took on a whole new meaning for me after listening to The Ed Mylette Show episode with Dr. Caroline Leaf. Dr. Caroline Leaf is a neuroscientist, mental health and mind expert and if you're not following her on Instagram...what are you doing!!
I'm already a huge fan of her work but the way she just explained this concept about thoughts really blew my mind and I had to hop on the mic and share with you guys!
Basically, when we are thinking, you can actually SEE with a microscope something physically forming in the brain. And it looks like a tree! The thought starts, and that's the trunk of the tree, then as you think more thoughts related to that, the trunk grows branches, and the branches grow leaves.
AND..the trees can shrink and disappear as you don't continue to dwell on those thoughts.
If you're like me, sometimes anxious thoughts and worrying about false realities can keep...
