My Unpopular Opinion on Feeling Butterflies
A lot of coaches out there will tell you feeling butterflies around a new guy is a bad sign, because it means your nervous system is recognizing danger. This just isn't totally true, butterflies CAN actually be a good thing, as long as they're not overtaking your ability to spot the potential red flags.
In this episode, I'm breaking down:
- What the sensation of butterflies actually is from a physiological perspective
- Why, from a physiological perspective, butterflies aren't always a bad thing
- My personal experience with butterflies and how it's gone both good and bad
- When feeling butterflies becomes a bad thing
- How you can distinguish between when the butterflies are a warning sign vs. just excitement
Feeling uncomfortable on dates, like you have to perform, be someone you're not, anxious wondering what he's thinking of you? I help my clients feel totally confident in their skin on dates, and to know how to spot the red flags. You don't have to be currently dating to work...
How to Stand Out on Your Dating Profile
Not attracting the quality men you're looking for on the dating sites? In this episode, I give you my proven top tips for improving your online dating profile and the first couple interactions to collapse your timeline and find your high-quality man faster.
We talk about:
- How to make sure your profile isn't generic and stands out from the crowd while staying true to who you are
- Red flags to look out for in the initial text messages with a guy so you can filter through the duds faster and save loads of time
- How soon you should move away from texting and move to phone/video call or in-person meet up
- How to grow your self-worth so you no longer settle for Gumball Guys
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Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:
- The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package,...
Why Professional Women Struggle to Find Love
Are you killing it at your professional live, but struggling to find the man of your dreams? Most clients who come to me are much more confident and comfortable walking in to a board room than walking in to a first date, so if that's you, you're not alone!
In this episode, I give you the top reasons my clients were struggling to connect with high-quality men, and how I help them stop the cycle of toxic love, discover their worth, and find true love.
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If you're done dating man babies and ready to find a lasting, true connection, I can help you! Here's how:
- The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, 10 coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
- The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
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How to Stop the Cycle of Rejection and Pain
In this episode we're talking about why you're in the cycle of rejection and pain, why that pain of rejection is so great, and how to stop the cycle.
If you continue to find yourself meeting guys who seem great in the beginning, and then with no explanation they disappear or they turn out to be not who you thought they were, and then you're stuck in what appears to be a never-ending funk of sadness and anxiety about what the future holds for you, this one is for you!
It is all a simple mindset shift that you can start implementing today to immediately feel content about your present moment, no matter the circumstances.
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Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:
- The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love...
I'm Engaged! What it Feels like to Know for Sure
I'M ENGAGED!! I know how it can kinda stink to hear these engagement stories when you're still single, trust me I was there for a long time. I'm sharing this story with you because I KNOW it's possible for you.
Whether you're single, dating or in a committed relationship, this episode is meant to help you understand what it feels like (for me, and I know for many others) to know for sure that this is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. I'll also give you the behind the scenes story of how Iain proposed!
Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're the type of girl who's got it all together, except for in the area of romance, you're probably my ideal client! There are currently two ways to work with me:
- The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one...
I Did This Before I Found Love
In this episode, I want to share with you all the things I did to level up my life that I believe prepared me for the love I'm experiencing now.
And I'll let you in on a secret..it has nothing to do with dating, or having the right pictures and words on your profile to attract the right person..it all has to do with going back to YOU and curating your ideal life.
Not only did this help prepare me for this relationship, but it also helped me to not lose myself in this relationship.
This is a problem I had in the past, and a theme I see with my clients...losing yourself so much in a relationship that it's so difficult to break out of because you don't know who you are without this person.
So tune in for some awesome, practical tips you can start incorporating right away into your life in order to be grounded in who you are and prepare you to meet the love of your life!
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Live Guest Coaching: There Was So Much Chemistry, What Happened?
On this episode we bring on Khyara, a listener of the podcast, for a LIVE hot seat coaching session
Khyara was dating a guy for a month and a half and things were going well, there was a lot of sexual chemistry, until things started feeling..off.
At a time when Khyara really emotionally needed him, he dropped the ball. Plus, he stopped prioritizing time for them to hang out.
Tune in as Melissa and Khyara break down what happened using Khyara’s quiz results to see which flavors of attention this guy craved.
If you’ve been wondering what a coaching session is like, here’s your chance to get a taste!
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Are You Marrying Him Before You Meet Him?
You come across a profile online...he's so cute, his dog is cute, you share the same hobbies and interests, you're hitting it off in the DM's, next thing you know you're fantasizing about your wedding and how you'll become bffs with his sister and wondering if you'll have Thanksgiving with his family or yours.
Like WOAH that went from 0-100 real quick This episode is to remind you to PUMP THE BREAKS girl.
Otherwise, you end up building up this whole fantasy in your head, putting him on a pedestal, and then miss out on the red flags that are in reality.
Tune in to this episode of Gumball Love to learn how to shift your mindset BEFORE you go on the date and get out of "fantasy land".
Let me know what you thought of this episode and don't forget to share it with your friends who need to hear this!!
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Q&A: Are Open Relationships Healthy? Can Exes Be Friends? Huge Age Gaps in Relationships?
In this episode, we're diving deep into some questions you guys asked me on Instagram. I'm sharing my take on open relationships and polygamy, 10+ year age gaps in relationships, can exes be friends, and what to do about dating burn out.
Have you been tempted by the allure of "open relationships" that everyone, including Will and Jada Pinkett Smith, seem to be raving about? If something feels off to you about it, it's because there is something very off about it. We'll talk about why people are drawn to this non-committed relationship (an oxymoron, yes) and why it just does not work.
An age-old question, can exes be friends? Are you still hanging out with your ex as a friend, or maybe you're dating someone who is friends with their ex and wondering if it's reasonable to be upset about it? There are basically two situations were it's ok or even unavoidable, but outside of that, it's not a great idea, and we'll talk about why!
Lastly, are you totally burnt out from date after...
Feeling Hopeless After Divorce: How to Move Forward
After going through a traumatic relationship, divorce, or breakup, it can be really hard to keep having hope that things will get better and everything will work out in the end. How do we not lose hope after getting beat down?
When we have a physical injury, it's clear that we need to take rest and heal. However, when it's an emotional wound, somehow there's this expectation to "move on quickly" and "bounce back."
As we know, it's not that simple. And there are some key things we need to understand before we're truly able to move on and break free. In this podcast episode, I talk about what steps you need to take after a traumatic breakup in order to heal and not lose hope.
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