I Did This Before I Found Love
In this episode, I want to share with you all the things I did to level up my life that I believe prepared me for the love I'm experiencing now.
And I'll let you in on a secret..it has nothing to do with dating, or having the right pictures and words on your profile to attract the right person..it all has to do with going back to YOU and curating your ideal life.
Not only did this help prepare me for this relationship, but it also helped me to not lose myself in this relationship.
This is a problem I had in the past, and a theme I see with my clients...losing yourself so much in a relationship that it's so difficult to break out of because you don't know who you are without this person.
So tune in for some awesome, practical tips you can start incorporating right away into your life in order to be grounded in who you are and prepare you to meet the love of your life!
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Live Guest Coaching: There Was So Much Chemistry, What Happened?
On this episode we bring on Khyara, a listener of the podcast, for a LIVE hot seat coaching session
Khyara was dating a guy for a month and a half and things were going well, there was a lot of sexual chemistry, until things started feeling..off.
At a time when Khyara really emotionally needed him, he dropped the ball. Plus, he stopped prioritizing time for them to hang out.
Tune in as Melissa and Khyara break down what happened using Khyara’s quiz results to see which flavors of attention this guy craved.
If you’ve been wondering what a coaching session is like, here’s your chance to get a taste!
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Are You Marrying Him Before You Meet Him?
You come across a profile online...he's so cute, his dog is cute, you share the same hobbies and interests, you're hitting it off in the DM's, next thing you know you're fantasizing about your wedding and how you'll become bffs with his sister and wondering if you'll have Thanksgiving with his family or yours.
Like WOAH that went from 0-100 real quick This episode is to remind you to PUMP THE BREAKS girl.
Otherwise, you end up building up this whole fantasy in your head, putting him on a pedestal, and then miss out on the red flags that are in reality.
Tune in to this episode of Gumball Love to learn how to shift your mindset BEFORE you go on the date and get out of "fantasy land".
Let me know what you thought of this episode and don't forget to share it with your friends who need to hear this!!
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Q&A: Are Open Relationships Healthy? Can Exes Be Friends? Huge Age Gaps in Relationships?
In this episode, we're diving deep into some questions you guys asked me on Instagram. I'm sharing my take on open relationships and polygamy, 10+ year age gaps in relationships, can exes be friends, and what to do about dating burn out.
Have you been tempted by the allure of "open relationships" that everyone, including Will and Jada Pinkett Smith, seem to be raving about? If something feels off to you about it, it's because there is something very off about it. We'll talk about why people are drawn to this non-committed relationship (an oxymoron, yes) and why it just does not work.
An age-old question, can exes be friends? Are you still hanging out with your ex as a friend, or maybe you're dating someone who is friends with their ex and wondering if it's reasonable to be upset about it? There are basically two situations were it's ok or even unavoidable, but outside of that, it's not a great idea, and we'll talk about why!
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Feeling Hopeless After Divorce: How to Move Forward
After going through a traumatic relationship, divorce, or breakup, it can be really hard to keep having hope that things will get better and everything will work out in the end. How do we not lose hope after getting beat down?
When we have a physical injury, it's clear that we need to take rest and heal. However, when it's an emotional wound, somehow there's this expectation to "move on quickly" and "bounce back."
As we know, it's not that simple. And there are some key things we need to understand before we're truly able to move on and break free. In this podcast episode, I talk about what steps you need to take after a traumatic breakup in order to heal and not lose hope.
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What Men Want: Why Most Dating Advice is Crap
Enter the search term "dating advice" on Google or Youtube and you're bound to come across listicles or videos with titles like "10 Things You're Doing that are Turning Men Off" or "The Number One Mistake Women Make in Dating".
From this day forward, I want you to STOP consuming content like this. It's crap!!
1. You're never gonna find the holy grail of "what men want" because all men are DIFFERENT just like all women are different
2. This type of advice does not teach you how to have a deep, intimate relationship..it teaches you how to catch the attention of shallow men
3. The pick up artists who sell this advice never speak from personal experience and are almost never in successful, healthy relationships themselves.
Forget it all!! In this episode, I break down how to discern the crap advice from the credible advice that actually helps you find true, committed love.
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Does He Have the Capacity to Love?
When we've dated Gumball Guys in the past, often it's daunting and scary to get back into dating because we've been burned before. We're a bit jaded and skeptical that all guys are jerks.
Well, hindsight is always 20/20, but we can try some things during the dating stage to test the waters and see if he's really ready for love and commitment.
Junk "dating advice" will give you a lot of short-term strategies for getting a Gumball Guy. Well, ya got him..and now you wish you never met him. This episode is about LONG-TERM..how to actually find the right guy for you, who will be someone you can lean on in tough times, a teammate to take on life together.
Tune in to this episode to find out what type of inner work you should be doing to see if you are ready for love, as well as what you should be looking out for in a guy to see if he has the capacity to love as well.
Resources Mentioned
How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera
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What Does it Really Mean to be "Ready for Love"?
How do you know if you are "ready for love"? The depiction of love and romance in Hollywood movies certainly sets the wrong expectations for us around what healthy love, dating and relationships look like. After many years of dating and relationships, learning from the mistakes, and finally meeting the love of my life at age 43, I share how I knew I was ready for love.
Below are some key questions to ask yourself:
- What's the intention behind you dating right now? Is it out of boredom or loneliness? Or pressure from friends and family?
- Are you happy and fulfilled in your life right now?
- Are you who you truly want to be? Are you embodying the best version of yourself?
- What exactly are you looking for in a partner? What do you want and need?
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How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera
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Is It Time to Hire a Dating & Relationship Coach?
Wondering if it's time to start working with a dating and relationship coach?
It can be scary investing in coaching. You might be embarrassed that your situation is such a mess, or worry that I'll judge you, or feel weak for asking for help. Trust me, I hold no judgement because all I care about is meeting you where you're at and helping you figure out where to go from here. I love the mess, this is what I was born to do! And asking for help is the strongest thing you can do.
I talked with some of the alumni of my Back to You Academy to see what thoughts were going through their mind when they decided to start coaching with me, and what advice they'd give to another woman considering coaching, but is still unsure.
In this episode, you'll hear:
- What the Back to You Academy Alumni had to say about why they decided to hire a coach, and what they liked about my coaching style specifically
- The difference between coaching and therapy (both complement each other well!)
- How I...
Why You Need to Slow Down for True Love
In this episode, I felt called to discuss this urgency around needing to "fix" yourself so you can find the right guy and enter into a healthy relationship. I want to tell you to slow down, because trying to go fast and force it will only make the process longer.
In this episode, I discuss:
- Why you need to slow down on the urgency to "fix all your issues" and find the guy
- How you don't have to be totally perfect and without insecurities to enter a relationship
- How I handle my personal insecurities when they come up
- Stop idolizing all the couples who appear so perfect and happy on Instagram
- Qualities I've found in the love of my life that make him a great partner, and what makes our relationship great
- Get yourself ready to be able to receive love, but don't rush it. Take your time.
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