We all love to watch the fantasies and the happily ever afters..but what about the reality that over 50% of marriages end in divorce? Most people know this fact, but have you ever stopped to investigate what actually led to women deciding to divorce?
We're over here thinking single life is terrible and just wanting what those married couples (seem) to have, but then why do so many women choose to divorce or wish they could? They're fantasizing about the single life!
In this episode we get in to WHY so many marriages end in divorce. And here's a little spoiler, it's typically not marriage itself that leads to divorce..often it was doomed from the very beginning, long before the "I do's".
Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me:
In this episode, I want to share with you all the things I did to level up my life that I believe prepared me for the love I'm experiencing now.
And I'll let you in on a secret..it has nothing to do with dating, or having the right pictures and words on your profile to attract the right person..it all has to do with going back to YOU and curating your ideal life.
Not only did this help prepare me for this relationship, but it also helped me to not lose myself in this relationship.
This is a problem I had in the past, and a theme I see with my clients...losing yourself so much in a relationship that it's so difficult to break out of because you don't know who you are without this person.
So tune in for some awesome, practical tips you can start incorporating right away into your life in order to be grounded in who you are and prepare you to meet the love of your life!
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Enter the search term "dating advice" on Google or Youtube and you're bound to come across listicles or videos with titles like "10 Things You're Doing that are Turning Men Off" or "The Number One Mistake Women Make in Dating".
From this day forward, I want you to STOP consuming content like this. It's crap!!
1. You're never gonna find the holy grail of "what men want" because all men are DIFFERENT just like all women are different
2. This type of advice does not teach you how to have a deep, intimate relationship..it teaches you how to catch the attention of shallow men
3. The pick up artists who sell this advice never speak from personal experience and are almost never in successful, healthy relationships themselves.
Forget it all!! In this episode, I break down how to discern the crap advice from the credible advice that actually helps you find true, committed love.
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Dana Drahos was a young 20-something working at an advertising agency in New York City in 2018. The dream, right?
Not so much for her. After just 2.5 years in corporate America, Dana knew that there must be more to life than dragging herself out of bed every morning to go to a job she hates, working till 11pm, getting drunk regularly with coworkers at happy hours, and repeat.
She had no clue what else she wanted to do for a career, but she couldn't ignore this burning desire to live abroad. Finally, she resigned and found herself teaching English in Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon), Vietnam, where she's been living for the past three years.
Since then, it's been a wild ride of teaching, starting a podcast called Creators in Saigon, becoming a podcast manager with Melissa as her first client(!), and now just finished a Holistic Nutritionist and Health Coach certification and discovered a burning passion to help women relieve their PMS symptoms through natural and holistic...
An avid listener of the Gumball Love Podcast, Jolie reached out to me via email after listening to the episodes describing the different flavors of attention addiction. I was so impressed with how she was able to connect each "flavor" to a real life Gumball Guy she'd met over the course of her 51 first dates, I had to get her on the show!
Yes, after spending 20 years married to the wrong person, Jolie got divorced and set out to go on 50 first dates. Jolie openly shares this journey through her memoir and podcast titled "Fifty First Dates". She's also an author of several other romantic novels.
This episode is like "casual girl chat meets real coaching session". We totally dig into her current dating situation with a Gumball Guy, and decode his behaviors using the flavors of attention addiction.
We hear about what patterns she saw after going on so many first dates, how she learned to #filterlikeafreak and not just be open to anyone, what advice she'd...
Wondering if it's time to start working with a dating and relationship coach?
It can be scary investing in coaching. You might be embarrassed that your situation is such a mess, or worry that I'll judge you, or feel weak for asking for help. Trust me, I hold no judgement because all I care about is meeting you where you're at and helping you figure out where to go from here. I love the mess, this is what I was born to do! And asking for help is the strongest thing you can do.
I talked with some of the alumni of my Back to You Academy to see what thoughts were going through their mind when they decided to start coaching with me, and what advice they'd give to another woman considering coaching, but is still unsure.
In this episode, you'll hear:
In this episode, I reflect on what I wish I knew earlier on, back in the days when I was totally lost on everything love, dating and relationships. I think back to mistakes I’d made...although I don’t really like to call them mistakes, because I think everything happens for a reason and everything happens in the timing it’s supposed to.
Nevertheless, I have a list of 13 things I did that helped me on the journey of finding my true love. I believe that if I hadn’t done these things, I certainly wouldn’t be able to experience the deeply loving relationship I’m now in, because I wouldn’t know who I am, I wouldn’t love myself, I wouldn’t understand my trauma and how to manage my triggers in a healthy way, and so much more.
Let me know your thoughts and if you can relate! Please share this episode on your social media and tag me so I know if this content is resonating with you.
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Are you constantly caught up in unrealistic day dreams about a guy you just met or have been talking to for a while?
It's so easy for us to come up with these elaborate romantic scenarios where the bad guy turns into the good guy, or he "saves" you from something, or whatever is yours.
Why do we get so caught up in these stories and become obsessed with the guy so quickly?
Think back to the movies you've watched, the books you've read, and the songs you've grown up with. These depict an unrealistic expectation of romance and love that leads us to float on a fairytale cloud for a while, only to come crashing down when reality hits.
In this episode, we discuss:
As always, if any of this resonates with you,...
In this episode, I felt called to discuss this urgency around needing to "fix" yourself so you can find the right guy and enter into a healthy relationship. I want to tell you to slow down, because trying to go fast and force it will only make the process longer.
In this episode, I discuss:
Many of you have been coming into my DMs or writing in the private Facebook group asking about what are the red flags to know if he's really looking for love or just a hook up?
And I'm going to share these red flags with you in this podcast, but I'm also gonna give you some tough love, because while knowing red flags is great, we need to stop focusing so much on them.
What should you really be focusing on?
If you don't know who you are and what you want, it doesn't even matter if you know the red flags.
And while red flags don't really ever change and can generally be applied as a rule of thumb, your values and the things you're specifically looking for in a partner are highly personal. That means that no one...not I, not another relationship expert...can tell you what to look for.
Join me in this episode as I get real with you about red flags to look for, and how to start thinking about dating differently so you can filter out the bad guys and...