In this episode, learn how to elevate your life and boost your energy levels on a budget. We'll talk about how to bring hobbies, community, and people into your life like fitness trainers, personal chefs, personal assistants...and not break the bank. You'll learn how to focus on only the things that you do really well and that bring you joy, and outsource or systemize the rest.
When things in our life are out of order, disorganized, not clean..and when we're out of shape or not keeping up with eating healthily, we start to feel bad about ourselves and it causes negative ripple effects in other areas of our life.
We really need to get our priorities straight. So often I see women say they don't have enough to hire a fitness trainer but they're shopping in Amazon for their next pair of shoes.
In order to, to elevate your life, you have to actually commit to the idea of investing in yourself, and know that you are worth it. Know the value of you living a healthy life,...
In this episode I'll be answering a listener question: How will I know if he's the right guy? She also feared that she may have so much self worth and love that no guy will ever be good enough for her. So if you've asked yourself similar questions, you'll want to tune in to this episode!
There are tons of "lists" out there that you'll find on Buzzfeed or wherever, but you know I always say there are no hard and fast "rules" in love, or one size fits all. So, this is a list of some simple things to look out for and what I've personally experienced after dating many guys who were definitely NOT the right one, and finally finding the guy who is.
I also discuss how to be supportive and compassionate, without playing the role of his therapist and trying to help him heal when it's too big for you to handle (because you're not his therapist!!).
1. You're having fun with them all the time. Even the moments in life that are...
Are you sitting there, waiting to find someone to "complete" you?
Do you feel like your life won't really begin, or you can't let it begin, without finding "The One"?
Are you feeling purposeless and unfulfilled in your life, and thinking if you could just find the guy, things would finally all fall into place and you'll be happy?
Then you NEED to hear this episode my girl!!
Unfortunately, Hollywood gives us this perception that we are all incomplete people, and we need to find the one who will complete us and we'll ride happily into the sunset.
It's a lie. We must first learn to see ourselves as complete, and love ourselves just as we are right now. We must focus on fulfilling our own lives and stop waiting for the guy.
In this episode, I dive into how you can start finding fulfillment in your life while you are single, and really enjoy the single phase.
I also discuss:
Are you carrying around the weight of how your ex made you feel not good enough, into new relationships? Or maybe it's even affecting relationships with friends, family, or your work life. Don't beat yourself up about it or carry shame around about it!
"You're still gonna miss a guy that treated you poorly. It's part of the process."
You have so much love to give, and yet when you try to give this love, the men you're with question it. They doubt you and your love. Which gets into your head, and now you're questioning your own worth and value.
Now, when you try to date or get into a new relationship, you're questioning everything you say and do, and analyzing everything he says about you. It's exhausting.
The message I want to get across in this episode is that:
When we are experiencing anxiety, it often means we are focusing on and worrying about things that are out of our control. 2020 has been full of things out of our control, so let's talk about how to soothe ourselves when anxiety starts creeping up and stop it from taking over us!
First, I'll chat about what anxiety is and what can cause it. Then, I'll be sharing with you everything that has worked for me for grounding myself in those moments where anxiety becomes overwhelming.
As always, remember that there is NOTHING wrong with you. Anxiety is not a part of you, it's normal, and it's something we can manage.
"My longterm mission is to help as many people as possible get healthy themselves, find healthy partners, and have healthy children." -Melissa Leger
"How you formed an attachment to your caregivers in infancy often sets the tone for how you experience your adult relationships.
If your parents were slow or inconsistent with tending to your needs, you might have become anxiously attached.
When you’re an adult, you may subconsciously repeat similar behaviors you experienced in childhood, in your romantic relationships." Source.
We can talk about avoiding red flags and Gumball Guys, but when it comes to actually being in a healthy relationship and being attracted to a healthy relationship, I want to bring to your attention that you may have anxiety around the actual attachment part.
We don't have to be perfect and totally secure before entering a relationship, but it's important to become aware of your attachment style so that you can sooth yourself and know what...
I'm back after a podcasting hiatus! 2020 has been full of twists and turns as we all know, and I wanted to give you the full rundown on what's been going on in my life behind the scenes. In this episode of Gumball Love I spill all the details on finding the love of my life, moving out of my beloved home of New York City, and the exciting new direction Gumball Love is heading!
We're also really going to dig into a common topic I hear from many of you in the Private Facebook group. Which is, when you feel like you're doing everything right, you're implementing the advice I'm giving you...and yet, you're still not finding love.
We examine the common beliefs and conditioning you may have that are standing in your way of you finding love, and how to rework these beliefs, decondition and shift your mindset, so you can make space for sustainable love!
Tonya Carter is a certified relationship coach, author, speaker and podcast host that specializes in helping divorced women find their voice, regain their power and obtain personal freedom to live a thriving life.
Her podcast, “The Reinvent U Podcast”, focuses on mindset, emotions, finances, health, faith, love, parenting and building meaningful relationships, in order to become the best version of themselves in their personal lives, families and professional environment.
She is also the author of the book, "Divorce Your Story: A Woman’s Guide to Heal & Thrive after Divorce."
In this episode of the Gumball Love Podcast, Tonya opens up about her journey from divorce, five job losses in four years, unhealthy relationships, financial hardships, health setbacks and balancing single motherhood. She decided to stop being the victim and became the victor of her life and shares with us how she helps other women do the same!
OMG! The response to Dr. Debbie’s podcast was crazy. People were mad, triggered, freed, confused, liberated and everything in between.
I wasn’t expecting this at all. I was one of the ones that felt freed. If you read my previous blog post, it was the moment I realized I had signed the subconscious contract with my mother.
But the shocker was: This contract makes me emotionally unavailable!! What??? (ok we will dig in to this in a little bit but first…
This does NOT mean I have to break up with my Mom. In fact, my mom listened to the podcast and we had an amazing conversation. Now when I talk to my mom, I know the topics that are off limits. I know what tweaks I have to make. Do I catch myself in old habits? Sure… but….
It’s about the shifting the balance and it’s not an overnight change!
So many people I coached the following week felt pressure...
Today’s podcast is soooo good! What a weird title though right? What do my parents have to do with the fact that I’m single? It might be EVERYTHING.
Now, before you think there is something wrong with you for being single OR that we are going to blame Mom and Dad for everything… let me stop you there. That’s not where this is going…
In the podcast you literally hear me go to therapy with Dr. Debbie and feel the pain and agony of a realization I hadn’t had in 16 years of searching. I believe now, with 100% certainty, it’s why I have attracted Gumball Guys for so long.
It’s tough for me to say this to you, but I want you to see that I am also still very much on this journey. What I am about to share is very personal yet I know you will be able to relate as we are probably a lot alike.
My parents divorced when I was 12 years old. It was the few months leading up to...