The thing about Mr. Wrong is there is always something about him that you cannot resist in the beginning.    To top things off the chemistry is off the charts.    So combine a guy with the X factor and physical attraction, how can you resist?   At first things are perfect.  In your warm fuzzy bliss you doodle your name with his last name and start to think he’s the one.  Just when you think you can relax.   He starts to pull away.

You were going along thinking you had hit the jackpot telling all your friends about Mr. Wonderful and then something happened.  It was like you were jamming to a great techno song and then the station turned to static.  The last thing you want to ask is, “Are we ok?” so you do the silent panic.   Then you think,  “Am I over reacting?  It’s the only time in your life you would be really excited to learn you might be over reacting.

Over time you see his moods fluctuate, he seems irritable and hard to please.  His text messages are inconsistent and you start getting one-word answers.  There are times he seems normal but then those get fewer and fewer.   He begins to pick at you and the sarcastic comments start to really hurt.   You find yourself feeling like you can’t do anything right.   You start looking at the door to leave but he seems to do just enough to string you along but not enough to contribute to your life. This toxic cycle is the signature of the Gumball Guy.

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3 thoughts on “Why Sweet Mr. Right Turns Into Worthless Mr. Wrong

  • October 18, 2015 at 10:32 am
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    I love listening to your stuff… I am currently in a relationship, if that’s what you want to call it, with one of those guys. He wants to be friends and I take care of him and his three girls asking with my two and I feel like I get really nothing in return. He says you know my life it’s busy, and I want to be able to be intimate with you but still talk and not have to identify myself with one person only on the sexual aspect. We have been together for 1.5 years and everyone tells me I deserve better but for some reason I still stay and can’t leave. Because when he isn’t listening to his motivational speaker”Alan watts” he is a great guy and things really are good. As soon as he starts doing that he turned into this different person almost and then bam it’s like dating a different guy. He says he doesn’t want to date because he doesn’t have enough time to have to give the affection and it’s not fair. This is the forth time we have gone through this cycle he says he needs space and time so I give it to him, but within three days he is texting and blowing up my phone. So I try and get the message out of your periscope . I like listening to them they are great. So much more to tell but I’d be writing for pages. All I can compare him to is Christian grey lol. So when I read your post above is good him to a t. Spot on . so what should I do.

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    • March 6, 2016 at 6:51 am
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      This is really upniitflg *sigh* I dont like that I have this problem and I try to keep things in perspective because I know the world doesn’t revovle around myself but at times I just get the feeling that everyone is looking at me and judging me for my every mistake, it makes it hard to even interact with people without being even in the least anxious. This is upniitflg though and I will def turn my problems to the Lord because at this point he is the only one that can help me. Thanks for the post and your helping people like us by just talking about your situations and giving us all courage.

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  • March 6, 2016 at 7:50 am
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    Thanks for these thoughts. I’m in a hotel room in England, waiitng for a wedding tomorrow and it’s probably more nerve-wracking for me than the bride or groom! I am a Christian + have had SA for 15yrs and with God’s help am working with it + getting through it. Just some days (like tomorrow) are a bit scary. Thanks for the inspiration. I’ll think if that when I’m talking to strangers tomorrow. God bless.

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