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4 thoughts on “Coaching

  • May 4, 2017 at 4:54 pm
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    Good day Melissa,

    I am experiencing a lot of repeat experience with what you are describing as gumball guys and it is really challenging for me. Your podcast resonated with me and was really helpful. I would like to consider some coaching sessions with you. Here is a letter I composed for Dear Sugar Radio. Things are pretty fresh right now. I’d like to build back my self confidence (which was really strong when I met Flynn). When I experience being ignored and not communicated with, after a while (a week or so of patience) I start to feel really insecure.

    Thoughts?
    Thank you,
    Laura

    Here is my most recent love experience. What I’m concerned about is that I’m very aware of my attachment style, where it stems from, and how I’ve worked on it. At this stage in my life, I’m 38, Id like to clarify whether my way of communication would be accepted and appreciated by a man who is of the same emotional level and intention as I am- is it them ? Is it me? Is it both of us? as this was unfolding I consulted my meditation practice, my mentor, good friends, and I did my best to own my insecurity and request talking over the phone in a week after his grandma died.
    Here’s my story.

    I met someone a few months ago serendipitously when we started a conversation at a restaurant in a town I was passing through for a few days. It felt so natural and unlike the way we meet people to date in our culture online. I actually met a person- on line- at a local market while having a conversation. Our eyes met, we smiled, we hit it off and talked for hours. I wasn’t even supposed to be in this town I was rained out of where I was going due to weather and stopped in.

    We walked to the ocean and had an amazing time talking a watching the waves crash. His live of nature and the environment spoke to my heart. It was so natural being together. We understood each other. The more we talked the more it seemed like our values in relationship and interests overlapped. He was incredibly interested in me emotionally and physically, and while I usually take my time, I stayed the night. We spent the night reading in bed together and talking and then we were intimate and we spent the next day together. I left for where I was moving to the next day and we made plans for a visit with the intention of taking it slow and seeing where the relationship would go long term. He visited me twice for three days each time, and I live 5 hours away. Each time he visited we hiked and and had an amazing time. We shared our hopes, visions, and affection. He talked about how I’d make an amazing mother someday and while we were just starting out, he could see having a family someday. I was wary about “future faking” but he seemed grounded in the present. The second time he visited was better than the first, but midway through he said he had to leave. His grandma was going into the hospital and he needed to pick up his dog at his families home and be there for the family. On his way home I sent a message affirming I’d like to continue the relationship and I felt my live for him growing. A few days later, the sweet texts I’d receive were replaced by a message inviting me on a sailing trip to Hawaii, then two messages that made no sense, and then one that his grandma died and he wasn’t doing well. After that he wouldn’t pick up my phone calls and they go right to voicemail and he wouldn’t write me back through text at all. I heard back a week and a half later saying he was grieving immensely and he loves my essence but felt he it was best not to have commitments and I deserved more and he trusted I understood. This was all through text and I really wanted to talk on the phone because honestly I didn’t understand how things could change so drastically between us. What does his grandmothers death have to do with our ability to communicate and have a relationship? Anyhow, it’s been a month and he has not called or texted and will not answer me. I write an invitation to talk and connect about every two weeks and in those messages I’ve been supportive of his grief. Now I’m starting to feel like maybe he’s not telling the truth about his grandmother and he’s avoiding talking with me. I understand that I wouldn’t want to be with an avoidant person, it’s not healthy for me, but I’m stuck in the past because I have no way of being heard and I don’t know the truth. I drove up here to see him, but I’m hesitant to make contact. Friends have advised me not to and to just move on. The trouble is- I’m finding I can’t move on. I had developed real feelings with him and it seemed like he did too when we were dating? What do I do if I can’t get closure. It’s becoming difficult to move on and believe I’ll find that kind of connection. I loved the life he was dreaming and sharing with me. He was taking the lead on interest in the relationship and then disappeared.
    What do I do?

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  • May 8, 2017 at 2:07 am
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    Looking to get a coaching session due to leaving a gym all relationship, getting sucked back in briefly and now being free at last. Wondering how long I should wait to start dating. Was thinking of going on dates to get rid of oneitis and to get a good look at healthy men.

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  • May 18, 2017 at 9:49 pm
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    Hi Melissa!

    I recently listened to your episode on the Style Your Mind Podcast. I just would like to say THANK YOU. I had no idea what you meant about a gumball guy initially, but when you broke it down, I completely resonated with the term. I’ve been dealing with a gumball guy in my life and he’s been sucking the life out of me.

    I want to propose a guest post for your blog that would help your audience with the gumball concept from my personal experience with my gumball guy.

    If you don’t mind me guest posting on your site, GREAT. If you oppose, I would still like to say THANK YOU. Your perspective, tips, and experiences have sparked a change in my life to diligently pursue self-love.

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    • May 20, 2017 at 9:38 pm
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      Thank you so much! You are why I do this and I cannot begin to tell you what this means to me. I am so happy for you and most excited for your pursuit of self-love! Keep me posted on your journey! xoxo -melissa

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